We all need to honest with ourselves but the reasons why might be different than you think! Being honest with yourself can be and should be a positive practice because – it doesn’t mean what you might think it does! It does not mean being critical, depressed, and diving into a pool of self-pity! In fact, the biblical view of self-honesty is just the opposite. So, let’s dive into that pool instead!
What Does It Mean to Be Honest With Yourself?
If you’re a Christian, being honest with yourself means going straight to the Word. Being honest means to look at and acknowledge the truth. Yet, the truth doesn’t always have to be something negative. Truth is also positive.
But, if I tell you to ‘be honest with yourself,’ what is your first thought? “I don’t want to review everything that’s wrong with me.” You’re right, and that’s not what biblical honesty is about.
Everyone has faults and flaws. No one is a perfect Christian. But, God sees us in Christ who, alone, is perfect. Because we live in the flesh, we are faulty, sinful, and flawed but God sees each of us as the person He created us to be in Christ. His entire criteria for us is based on Jesus and being in Him!
Faults, Flaws and Sin
Faults and flaws are temporary and sin can be forgiven with a heartfelt act of repentance.
The Bible is filled with imperfect, sinful people. Cain killed his brother in a fit of jealousy. Moses declined God’s first invitation to be a leader and then his anger kept him out of the Promised Land. Abraham lied about his own wife to save his skin! David committed adultery and had a man killed. Paul got into an argument with Barnabas and they never made up. Peter lied about knowing who Jesus was.
I could go on, but you get the point. If we are honest with ourselves, we start with the fact that our only righteousness is in Christ! But, in Him, we stand clean, pure, forgiven, and white as snow in God’s eyes because of the blood of Jesus that was shed for us.
If we disqualify ourselves because of our faults, we are denying the very work of Christ that we say we believe in! So, being honest with yourself does not involve a long review of what’s wrong with you.
It does not involve denial of your faults, flaws and sins either. Yes, they are certainly there and we’re all working diligently everyday to overcome and be more and more like Christ. That’s what this life is about – a process of putting off the old man and putting on the new one – moment-by-moment, daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly till we are called home!
What Does the Bible Say About Being Honest With Yourself?
It does not say to dive into that pool of negativity, comparison, self-pity, and agreeing with the devil about how bad we are! Instead, we are to dive into the river of God that flows from His throne bringing new life into each of us. It is a cleansing flood!
There’s a very familiar scripture in which Paul acknowledges that he isn’t perfect but then tells us that he isn’t focusing on that! His focus is on Jesus – pursuing Him with all his heart, soul, mind and strength! That is how to be honest with yourself.
Philippians 3:7-16 TPT, Yet all of the accomplishments that I once took credit for, I’ve now forsaken them and I regard it all as nothing compared to the delight of experiencing Jesus Christ as my Lord! To truly know him meant letting go of everything from my past and throwing all my boasting on the garbage heap. It’s all like a pile of manure to me now, so that I may be enriched in the reality of knowing Jesus Christ and embrace him as Lord in all of his greatness.
My passion is to be consumed with him and not clinging to my own “righteousness” based in keeping the written Law. My “righteousness” will be his, based on the faithfulness of Jesus Christ—the very righteousness that comes from God. And I continually long to know the wonders of Jesus more fully and to experience the overflowing power of his resurrection working in me. I will be one with him in his sufferings and I will be one with him in his death. Only then will I be able to experience complete oneness with him in his resurrection from the realm of death.
I admit that I haven’t yet acquired the absolute fullness that I’m pursuing, but I run with passion into his abundance so that I may reach the purpose that Jesus Christ has called me to fulfill and wants me to discover. I don’t depend on my own strength to accomplish this; however I do have one compelling focus: I forget all of the past as I fasten my heart to the future instead. I run straight for the divine invitation of reaching the heavenly goal and gaining the victory-prize through the anointing of Jesus. So let all who are fully mature have this same passion, and if anyone is not yet gripped by these desires, God will reveal it to them. And let us all advance together to reach this victory-prize, following one path with one passion.
Here is the beautiful, fantastic, and freeing truth of being honest with ourselves – in ourself, we are nothing. In Christ, we are everything! To be honest with yourself is to rejoice in what Christ has done and is doing in you! This is who you are are – a child of the living God. That is the honest, absolute truth about you.
Who Does the Bible Say I Am?
I am who God says I am. This is who and what God says I am.
44 Uplifting Reasons to Be Honest With Yourself – I Am:
- Fearfully and wonderfully made – Psalm 139:13-16
- His temple – 1 Corinthians 3:16-17
- Member of a chosen race, royal priesthood, holy nation, called out of darkness into God’s marvelous light – 1 Peter 2:9
- No longer a slave because I am set free to be a daughter or son and heir through God – Galatians 4:7
- No longer a servant, but a friend of God – John 15:15
- A new creation – 2 Corinthians 5:17
- A child of God who has a plan for me for good, not evil, with a future and a hope – Jeremiah 29:11
- I am a crown of beauty in the hand of the Lord, a royal diadem, no longer forsaken. I am called “My Delight is in Her” and God rejoices over me – Isaiah 62:3-5
- A citizen of heaven – Philippians 3:20
- Set free from all condemnation and the law of sin and death – Romans 8:1-2
- A fellow heir with Christ – Romans 8:17
- An overcomer – 1 John 4:4
- Promised eternal life – John 3:16
- God’s workmanship, created in Christ for good works – Ephesians 2:10
- Established and anointed in Christ, with His seal on me and His Spirit in my heart – 2 Corinthians 1:21-22
- Healed – 1 Peter 2:24
- A partaker of the divine nature who has escaped the corruption in this world – 2 Peter 1:4
- One who has a Spirit of power, love, and self-control, not a spirit of fear – 2 Timothy 1:7
- Not afraid, not dismayed, because God strengthens, helps and upholds me – Isaiah 41:10
- Free indeed – John 8:36
- Saved by grace through faith – a gift of God – Ephesians 2:8
- Living in the kingdom of the beloved Son, Jesus – Colossians 1:13
- Led by the Spirit of God – Romans 8:14
- A conqueror in all things – Romans 8:37
- At peace with God having been justified by faith – Romans 5:1
- The righteousness of God – 2 Corinthians 5:21
- A new person, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness – Ephesians 4:24
- Living by faith as Christ lives in me – Galatians 2:20
- The apple of God’s eye – Psalm 17:8
- Called according to God’s purpose – Romans 8:28
- Justified by grace – Romans 3:24
- A light in the world meant to give glory to the Father – Matthew 5:13-16
- Hidden with Christ in God – Colossians 3:3
- Seated in heavenly places with Jesus – Ephesians 2:6
- Redeemed and forgiven – Ephesians 1:7
- Joined to the Lord and one Spirit with Him – 1 Corinthians 6:17
- Created in God’s image – Genesis 1:27
- Alive together with Christ – Ephesians 2:4-5
- Blessed in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places – Ephesians 1:3
- Redeemed from the curse of the law – Galatians 3:13
- A living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God – Romans 12:1-2
- Part of the body of Christ – 1 Corinthians 12:27
- An ambassador for Christ – 2 Corinthians 5:20
- Forgiven – Colossians 3:13
These 44 Scriptures are the honest truth of who you are. When you read these, you are being honest with yourself about yourself – the self God sees and created you to be!
No matter how you ‘feel’ about yourself – God’s word is truth. God cannot lie so this is the ‘honest truth’ about you, me and every person who has Christ living in them.
Set Free to Be Honest With Yourself Through the Word
You are now free from all the negative things you think about yourself.
Remember, you and God both know all about your shortcomings. God knows every struggle you have with your flesh. Here’s the great thing about God – HE FORGIVES! We only run into trouble if we embrace the sin instead of fighting it by turning to Him.
We don’t fight the flesh in our own strength. Instead, like Paul, we run straight to Jesus. When we sin, we repent. When we fall, we get up again, learn, and keep running toward Jesus.
Don’t Listen to Anything That Contradicts the Word
That includes your own thoughts. If you’re questioning who you are or are bogged down because you’re focused on only your faults – STOP. Turn to 44 Uplifting Reason to Be Honest With Yourself!
When I have a moment of following the flesh, I repent. I feel bad and, like all of you, I have a tendency to beat myself up a little. However, that doesn’t change anything. The only thing that changes me in the right way, is when I put it all in God’s hands, believe in His forgiveness, and move forward in His loving forgiveness and kindness. I have to “forget all of the past as I fasten my hear to the future instead.”
I have to remember who I really am and embrace God’s truth. I am not the sum of a momentary sin – neither are you. I am the sum of Christ in me, the hope of glory. I am the blood-bought daughter of the living God. I take my sin to the foot of the cross and leave it there. I get back in the race!
Being Honest With Yourself
Being honest with yourself is part of the spiritual battle we must all engage in. If the enemy can get you focused on your faults, he can take you down. If he gets you in his pool of mud, you can’t swim. But, if you decide to jump into the river of God instead, you win! That pool of mud is not the truth. Even if you sinned, the truth is Christ and there is immediate forgiveness and cleansing in Him.
Being honest with yourself by embracing what God says you are will protect you from that pool of mud. How? David was not the sum of his sin. His sin did not define Him – God did! God said that David was a man after His own heart. David did not allow that sin to define him. That was the difference between David and Saul. Saul did not repent, continued to live in his sin, and it conquered him.
David repented by submitting himself to God and only allowing himself to be defined by God. We are to do the same. It is God’s word that defines us – not what we do or feel. You are who God says you are if you choose to be!
I’m giving you a download of the 44 Scripture references above – 44 Uplifting Reasons to Be Honest With Yourself. I encourage you to print them out, read them, memorize them, and make them part of your daily life. Every time the enemy tries to shove you into a mud puddle, take up the Word and he will flee as you dive into the river of God.
**WM uses verses from different Bible translations. To see more information about the copyright for each one, please visit this page – Scripture Citations.