Last week we talked about attitude, how it affects you, and the fact that when you change your attitude, you change your life. This week, let’s look at 7 great tips to change your attitude
Your mental attitude – where it’s focused – determines your emotional, spiritual, and sometimes physical attitude. For instance, if you have a really bad attitude about your life in general, you may find yourself depressed, lethargic, and lonely. If you have a bad attitude about your job, you probably aren’t doing your best work. What you think can change your attitude in a good or bad way!
Listening to a lot of negative talk can cause you to feel hopeless, afraid, or angry which all turn your attitude in the wrong direction. We usually equate a direction like ‘up’ as being good. We say that ‘things are looking up.’ We equate negative things with the direction ‘down.’ I’m really down today, Or, that was a real downer. We do the same thing spiritually, equating looking up to the heavens as looking in a positive direction and looking down as negative spiritually. We are told to set our minds on the things above. Change your attitude and direction upward.
Tip #1 – Change Your Focus
During this time in our nation, lots of us are listening to the news almost constantly. And, we are bombarded with negative images, hopeless comments, and an atmosphere of fear. Covid-19 is an unknown quantity, an unseen threat we don’t understand and can’t control. All of this can change your attitude in very negative ways.
Take some simple steps to change your focus. Turn off the news or set some rules for yourself about listening to it. Listen to just the first five minutes once a day. Then, don’t look at it on your phone, television, or newspaper. Replace that time with time spent in a good book, the Bible, listening to an uplifting podcast, or meditating.
Change what you are bringing into your soul and spirit and change your attitude.
Tip #2 – Get Up and Move
Yes – get up and walk, jog, run, exercise, stretch, or whatever type of physical movement you enjoy. As you do this, listen to some great Christian music on your earphones, listen to a podcast, or just enjoy listening the sounds around you, Go out in your yard and work in your garden or flower bed or garage. Smell the dirt. Listen to the birds.
Most importantly – refuse to think about the things that bring fear and a negative attitude and while you’re doing that – move. I live in the country and go for walks with my dog. I listen to sounds around me, pray, give thanks to God for what I have, or pour out my woes to Him. God can handle it! My dog is a puppy in training so I take him through his paces telling him ‘Good boy” as enthusiastically as I possibly can!
Take your kids, who are probably home with you, outside and throw a ball or work together in the yard. You might have to force yourself to do it but you will feel better just by breathing fresh air and moving. Sweat a little! Not only can you change your attitude, but you might also help your kids with theirs.
Tip #3 – Do Something For Someone Else
Do you have a neighbor who needs some help with their yard? Go do it for them. Go through your clothing and gather up some things to donate. Take the items in yourself. Don’t ask someone else to do it. Go in the Thrift Store or Shelter for yourself and look at the people who are in need and the ones who are helping them. Then, be grateful for what you have.
Take out some paper and a pencil or pen and write a note to someone you haven’t seen in a while. You don’t have to write a book. Just tell them you were thinking about them and maybe share a funny memory you made together. Or, encourage someone who is struggling and change your attitude.
Tip # 4 – Open Up Your Bible
Get your Bible out and go to Psalms. Read about David and take note of how David encouraged himself. Use his words to do the same for yourself. David was a very open person. He told God about every fault, sin, need, and feeling he had. The difference between us and David is that David knew how to also encourage or strengthen himself in the Lord.
“Moreover David was greatly distressed because the people spoke of stoning him, for all the people were embittered, each one because of his sons and his daughters. But David strengthened himself in the Lord his God.” 1 Samuel 30:6 NASB
David was in a situation that would give any of us a bad attitude. He and his men had left the city of Ziklag where their wives and children resided. When they returned, they found that one of their enemies, the Amalekites, had come and taken everyone – men, women, and children – and had set the city on fire. In verse 4 it says that David and everyone with him lifted up their voices and wept. Then, as if things weren’t bad enough, his men started talking about killing him!
But, instead of developing a bad attitude, David started doing things to encourage and strengthen himself. He turned to his faith by immediately praying and asking God what he should do. In the aftermath, David and his army defeated the Amalekites and gathered their families again. He encouraged and strengthened himself as He listened to God’s word. You can do the exact same thing and change your attitude.
Tip #5 – Start Talking
I don’t just mean randomly talking. Start talking the Word. Repeat David’s words out loud to yourself. Look at Psalm 3:3-8 TPT
But in the depths of my heart I truly know that you, Yahweh, have become my Shield;
You take me and surround me with yourself. Your glory covers me continually.
You lift high my head when I bow low in shame.
I have cried out to you, Yahweh, from your holy presence.
You send me a Father’s help.
So now I’ll lie down and sleep like a baby—then I’ll awake in safety, for you surround me with your glory. Even though dark powers prowl around me, I won’t be afraid.
I simply cry out to you: “Rise up and help me, Lord! Come and save me!”
And you will slap them in the face, breaking the power of their words to harm me.
My true hero comes to my rescue, for the Lord alone is my Savior.
What a feast of favor and bliss he gives his people!
David once again gives us a great example. He started talking – talking to God. He says – I simply cry out to You! What could be better? Instead of thinking God is going to punish you for your bad attitude, remember that He is for you, not against you. You can tell Him everything. Besides, He already knows so why not just be totally honest with Him?
Tell Him how you feel and why you feel that way. Tell Him that, right now, you like your bad attitude! He understands. If you are talking to Him, then He knows that in your heart, you really want to follow Him and be like Jesus. Because of that, He’s fully on board with helping you through this season in your life! So, be like David and pour out all the good and all the bad before the God who pours out His love in return. Talk can change your attitude.
Tip #6 – Use Positive Statements
Yes, I know you’ve heard all about the power of positive thinking, Here’s the twist – that concept actually existed in the Bible long, long ago. You are what you eat and you are what you think! Here are some quotes on positive thinking you can use to keep that brain on the right track because – your attitude will follow!
Positive Attitude Quotes
That’s just one example of the kind of talk that will change your attitude from negative to positive! It’s important to talk out loud. While you are on that walk or sitting outside breathing in God’s beautiful creation, talk out loud. Speak the word.
Get yourself a little pocket Bible that’s easy to keep with you. When you’re out running and need to stop to locate more oxygen, use those moments to speak the Word.
Ephesians 4:29 TPT, “And never let ugly or hateful words come from your mouth, but instead let your words become beautiful gifts that encourage others; do this by speaking words of grace to help them.”
Proverbs 12:18 TPT, “Reckless words are like the thrusts of a sword, cutting remarks meant to stab and to hurt. But the words of the wise soothe and heal.”
Proverbs 15:4 TPT, “When you speak healing words, you offer others fruit from the tree of life. But unhealthy, negative words do nothing but crush their hopes.”
Proverbs 15:4 applies to you as well – think about the words you speak internally and externally to yourself! What effect are your own words having on you?
Proverbs 16:24 TPT, “Nothing is more appealing than speaking beautiful, life-giving words. For they release sweetness to our souls and inner healing to our spirits.”
Psalm 19:14 TPT, “So may the words of my mouth, my meditation-thoughts, and every movement of my heart be always pure and pleasing, acceptable before your eyes, my only Redeemer, my Protector-God.“
Colossians 4:6 TPT, “Let every word you speak be drenched with grace and tempered with truth and clarity. For then you will be prepared to give a respectful answer to anyone who asks about your faith.“
Here are some other quotes on positive thinking. Write down the Scriptures and quotes that mean the most to you on a notecard and take them with you. Whenever, those negative, downward thoughts come, replace them with the Word and with the words of others. Then, start coming up with your own and continue to change your attitude!
“There is a magnificent, beautiful, wonderful painting in front of you! It is intricate, detailed, a painstaking labor of devotion and love! The colors are like no other, they swim and leap, they trickle and embellish! And yet you choose to fixate your eyes on the small fly which has landed on it! Why do you do such a thing?” ― C. JoyBell C.
“Believing in negative thoughts is the single greatest obstruction to success.” ― Charles F. Glassman, Brain Drain The Breakthrough That Will Change Your Life
Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think. Benjamin Disraeli
Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny. Mahatma Gandhi
Tip #7 – Never Stop
No matter what the obstacles of problems may be, never let them stop you from being the person God intended for you to be. He will never stop helping you.
“I pray with great faith for you, because I’m fully convinced that the One who began this glorious work in you will faithfully continue the process of maturing you and will put his finishing touches to it until the unveiling of our Lord Jesus Christ!” Philippians 1:6 TPT
Paul faced death, beatings, rejection, loss of everything and yet, he never stopped. He had one goal and there was nothing on this earth that could keep him from reaching it!
Philippians 3:12-16 TPT, “I admit that I haven’t yet acquired the absolute fullness that I’m pursuing, but I run with passion into his abundance so that I may reach the purpose that Jesus Christ has called me to fulfill and wants me to discover.
I don’t depend on my own strength to accomplish this; however I do have one compelling focus: I forget all of the past as I fasten my heart to the future instead. I run straight for the divine invitation of reaching the heavenly goal and gaining the victory-prize through the anointing of Jesus. So let all who are fully mature have this same passion, and if anyone is not yet gripped by these desires, God will reveal it to them. And let us all advance together to reach this victory-prize, following one path with one passion.”
A New Attitude
I hope that you are encouraged and lifted up as you realize that God fully understands our human condition and sent the wonderful Holy Spirit to help us have victory over every trial, temptation, and attitude! It’s not a sin to have a bad attitude. Just don’t let that attitude lead you into sin or into forsaking your faith. You can change your attitude! You can ask for God’s help to have a completely new attitude toward life, work, trials, people, or any area of your life.
**WM uses verses from different Bible translations. To see more information about the copyright for each one, please visit this page – Scripture Citations.
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