Mother’s Day is almost here. It’s a day of mixed feelings ranging from wonderful family gatherings to grief or loneliness. Most holidays cover that span of emotions. Mother’s Day celebrates the role of women as Mothers. Yet, there is much more to a woman’s life. While Motherhood is a huge blessing and responsibility, it is not the sum of a woman’s life. First, there must be a foundation in the woman herself – her character. Before, during, and after Motherhood, or when you are not a Mother, character (or heart) is the most important thing. Because of that, we are going to look at 9 invincible characteristics of a godly woman.
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9 Characteristics of a Godly Woman
The woman in Proverbs 31 is the one most Christian women compare themselves to, forgetting that she is actually a compilation of many women and all her acts cover a lifetime – not a moment in time. She is not really who we are to compare ourselves to. Jesus is the model for women as well as men. While there is much we can learn from her, we must also remember that God does not compare us to her and neither should we. However, we can use her to look at some characteristics every woman of God should pursue and that Jesus exemplifies.
One – Faithfulness – A Woman of Faith
In Proverbs 31, I believe we see a woman who believes in God and lives a life that exemplifies faith. Her life is a metaphor for the Bride of Christ. Her husband’s heart is fully hers and he trusts her just as the Bridegroom, Jesus, has given His heart to the Bride, us. She has dedicated herself to Him in every way throughout her lifetime.
Faith has to be cultivated and protected. We do that by being in the Word – “So faith comes from what is heard, and what is heard comes through the message about Christ.,” Romans 10:17 HCSB A Godly woman is one who pursues the Word of God and keeps it in her heart.
- “Flee from youthful passions, and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” 2 Timothy 2:22 HCSB
- “I admit that I haven’t yet acquired the absolute fullness that I’m pursuing, but I run with passion into his abundance so that I may reach the purpose that Jesus Christ has called me to fulfill and wants me to discover. I don’t depend on my own strength to accomplish this; however, I do have one compelling focus: I forget all of the past as I fasten my heart to the future instead. I run straight for the divine invitation of reaching the heavenly goal and gaining the victory-prize through the anointing of Jesus.” Philippians 3:12-14 TPT
The Bible often refers to our heart which is basically our character. It’s who we really are deep down inside. Our heart is to be guarded according to Proverbs 4:23, TPT, “So above all, guard the affections of your heart, for they affect all that you are. Pay attention to the welfare of your innermost being, for from there flows the wellspring of life.” Our heart must belong to Christ and be kept pure and undefiled by sin. This means that we need to constantly make sure our heart is pure. This study – Preparing Your Heart for More of God – will help you do just that.
The verse in Philippians 3 states an important truth. We must, at all times, “pay attention to the welfare of our innermost being, for from there flows the wellspring of life.” I believe that one way to do that is through a pure heart and acts of faith. Proverbs contains a long list of actions this woman was taking because true faith is active.
- She brings, pursues, helps, sets her heart, wraps herself, tastes and experiences, teaches, watches, and much more.
She is a woman of action who has activated her faith and pursues God.
Two – Loving – A Woman of God’s Love
No one could do what the Proverbs 31 woman did unless they first had love. Love for God which spilled over to family, friends, and strangers. If she were filled with hatred, bitterness, unforgiveness, and/or fear, she would not have an active faith that helps others. Love is the most important attribute.
“Until then, there are three things that remain: faith, hope, and love—yet love surpasses them all. So above all else, let love be the beautiful prize for which you run.” 1 Corinthians 13:13 TPT
Hopefully, you are familiar with 1 Corinthians 13, the love chapter of the Bible. While Jesus was the only human who was able to live on this earth in perfect love, we need to pursue love and all that it encompasses:
- Loving words
- Pure Motives
- Patience, gentleness, and kindness
- No jealousy or bragging
- Not shaming or disrespecting others or seeking personal honor
- Not easily irritated or quick to take offense
- Celebrating honesty and not taking delight in wrong
- Believing the best for others
- Not take failure as defeat and never giving up.
- Love never stops loving
Love is actively living in the fruit of the Holy Spirit, “But the fruit produced by the Holy Spirit within you is divine love in all its varied expressions: joy that overflows, peace that subdues, patience that endures, kindness in action, a life full of virtue, faith that prevails, gentleness of heart, and strength of spirit. Never set the law above these qualities, for they are meant to be limitless.” Galatians 5:22-23 TPT
Three – Caring – A Woman Who Cares For Others
Love is expressed in actions of caring. My husband loves to have his neck rubbed. When I do this for him, it is an act of caring based in love. I want him to be happy and I want to show him my love. I want to do things for him that are important to him.
When we have something we ‘care’ about, we are involved. I have a friend who cares deeply about the poor and her act of caring was to help start a Foodbank in our town. For twelve years, she has actively participated by feeding people, picking up food, going to conferences on hunger, and showing her care in tangible ways.
When we have people we ‘care’ about, we show them in various ways. My husband knows I love chocolate and flowers so he gives me those things, Because they matter to me, they matter to him. This is caring. Once again, we see action involved. What good does it do to tell a hungry person that you will pray for them? While praying is good, feeding them first would be best. You can pray for them anytime and the Bible addresses what we should do.
“For example, if a brother or sister in the faith is poorly clothed and hungry and you leave them saying, “Good-bye. I hope you stay warm and have plenty to eat,” but you don’t provide them with a coat or even a cup of soup, what good is your faith? So then faith that doesn’t involve action is phony.” James 2:15-17 TPT
Faith and caring take action and do things for the benefit of others.
Four – Generosity – A Woman Who Gives
We see the Proverbs 31 woman giving things to others. She gives, “Even in the night season she arises and sets food on the table for hungry ones in her house and for others.” Proverbs 31:15 TPT (complete chapter). We also see Jesus’ exhorting us to be generous and give to others. The entire Bible speaks of generosity as an attribute possessed and demonstrated by the Godly.
You don’t have to give away everything you own. Generosity is also wise. However, there are times when we may give something that might be difficult or create hardship for us. Generous means, “showing a readiness to give more of something, as money or time, than is strictly necessary or expected.” A generous person is not selfish.
- “If anyone sees a fellow believer in need and has the means to help him, yet shows no pity and closes his heart against him, how is it even possible that God’s love lives in him?” 1 John 3:17 TPT
- “Don’t neglect to do what is good and to share, for God is pleased with such sacrifices.” Hebrews 13:16 HCSB
- “A generous person will be blessed, for he shares his food with the poor.” Proverbs 22:9 HCSB
Jesus gave His life without expecting anything in return. Humans can make the decision to reject Him. Giving must be unselfish without expectations of performance on the part of the receiver.
Five – Wisdom – A Woman of Godly Wisdom
What is wisdom? It’s more than just knowledge. Google Dictionary defines wisdom as, “the soundness of an action or decision with regard to the application of experience, knowledge, and good judgment.” Yet, the Bible says that God’s wisdom is above human wisdom and that the unsaved view God’s wisdom as foolishness!
“For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but it is God’s power to us who are being saved. For it is written: I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and I will set aside the understanding of the experts.” 1 Corinthians 1:18-19 HCSB
“Where is the philosopher? Where is the scholar? Where is the debater of this age? Hasn’t God made the world’s wisdom foolish? For since, in God’s wisdom, the world did not know God through wisdom, God was pleased to save those who believe through the foolishness of the message preached. For the Jews ask for signs and the Greeks seek wisdom, but we preach Christ crucified, a stumbling block to the Jews and foolishness to the Gentiles. Yet to those who are called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ is God’s power and God’s wisdom, because God’s foolishness is wiser than human wisdom, and God’s weakness is stronger than human strength.” 1 Corinthians 1:20-25 The Voice
First, we need God’s wisdom? How do we get it? By simply asking! That sounds too simple to be true but, if you believe the Bible, that’s what it says, “Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives to all generously and without criticizing, and it will be given to him.” James 1:5 HCSB
The Bible also tells us where knowledge, which leads to wisdom, starts, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and discipline.” Proverbs 1:7 HCSB
- “Wisdom and strength belong to God; counsel and understanding are His.” Job 12:13 HCSB
- “Who is wise and has understanding among you? He should show his works by good conduct with wisdom’s gentleness. But if you have bitter envy and selfish ambition in your heart, don’t brag and deny the truth. Such wisdom does not come from above but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where envy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every kind of evil. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peace-loving, gentle, compliant, full of mercy and good fruits, without favoritism and hypocrisy. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who cultivate peace.” James 3:13-18 HCSB
- “Pay careful attention, then, to how you walk—not as unwise people but as wise— making the most of the time, because the days are evil. So don’t be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.” Ephesians 5:15-17 HCSB
Here we see what the Word says about wisdom. I agree with the Google definition but God’s wisdom must always take precedence over the world’s wisdom. The world’s wisdom did not comprehend the work of Jesus on the cross. But, a woman of wisdom, understands the will of God and walks in His wisdom because it is pure, peace-loving, compliant, full of mercy and good fruits, without favoritism and hypocrisy and is sown in peace by those who cultivate peace.
Six – trusting – A Woman Without Fear
What does it mean to trust God? it means doing some difficult things. Things like trusting in someone you can’t see or touch, It means taking chances on guidance from the Holy Spirit. It means not allowing fear to dominate our lives. Since this world thrives on fear, living a life of trust can be a challenge.
I’ve struggled with fear all my life. It is my constant battle. It doesn’t dictate to me but I still experience it regularly. It’s that feeling in your stomach – knots or butterflies or whatever you call it. I have awakened out of sleep with that feeling, I can’t trace it back to a dream or anything that has happened. It’s simply an area in my life that the enemy is always trying to use. Before I was saved, He used it very effectively convincing me to try to end my own life. He comes to steal, kill,, and destroy and all three of those things create fear. The enemy loves fear because, if he can get us to follow and obey it, he can create a stronghold in our lives.
He can no longer control me because I am not His, I was bought with the blood of Jesus and, though I may experience the feelings, I don’t obey them. The love of God has set. me free.
From cover to cover, the Word tells us not to fear. Fear is a feeling, an emotion, and a belief. Our Proverbs 31 woman shows no fear in Proverbs 31:21, “She is not afraid for her household when it snows, for all in her household are doubly clothed.“
When the storm comes, she is not afraid because she prepared for it beforehand! To me, that is a wonderful analogy for us to use in combatting fear. Prepare ahead of time. We know storms are going to come into our lives but, if we prepare ahead of time, we may experience the feelings and emotions of fear, but we will not be swayed by believing the lies of the enemy, Instead, we will stand on the foundation we have built which is Jesus and His Word.
When my first husband died suddenly, fear came in like a flood. Every single day, I had to take my thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ. There were some very real things to fear. But, we are never to solve the issues in our lives through a motivation of fear. We must base our lives on faith.
When fear came, I raised up the Word. I prayed Scripture, rejoiced in God’s love, and practiced gratitude. Was the feeling still there? Yes, but I continued to obey and do what I knew was right in God’s eyes. Eventually, the feelings and emotions went away and I had peace in the midst of the storm. The Word tells us how to handle fear:
- “Be strong and courageous; don’t be terrified or afraid of them. For it is the Lord your God who goes with you; He will not leave you or forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6 HCSB
- “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you; I will hold on to you with My righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10 HCSB
- “For I, Yahweh your God, hold your right hand and say to you: Do not fear, I will help you.” Isaiah 41:13 HCSB
- “The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom should I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom should I be afraid?” Psalm 27:1 HCSB
- “Cast your burden on the Lord, and He will sustain you; He will never allow the righteous to be shaken.” Psalm 55:22 HCSB
- “The Lord is for me; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” Psalm 118:6 HCSB
- “The fear of man is a snare, but the one who trusts in the Lord is protected.” Proverbs 29:25 HCSB
- “But when Jesus overheard what was said, He told the synagogue leader, “Don’t be afraid. Only believe.” Mark 5:36 HCSB
- “Don’t worry about anything, but in everything, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.” Philippians 4:6 HCSB
- “For God has not given us a spirit of fearfulness, but one of power, love, and sound judgment.” 2 Timothy 1:7 HCSB
- “There is no fear in love; instead, perfect love drives out fear, because fear involves punishment.[a] So the one who fears has not reached perfection in love.” 1 John 4:18 HCSB
- “When I saw Him, I fell at His feet like a dead man. He laid His right hand on me and said, “Don’t be afraid! I am the First and the Last,” Revelation 1:17 HCSB
I definitely understand that the battle with fear is not easy but I also know it is winnable no matter how many times the enemy tries. God never gives up or leaves us. I am including Scripture Prayers and all the Scriptures used in this article for you to download, There is a link after my signature and everything is free! I know from experience that it will help you!
Seven – Goodness – A Woman Who Does Good
Goodness is one of the fruit of the Holy Spirit. It is often translated as ‘virtue’ in the Bible. In fact, our Proverbs 31 woman is referred to in some translations as a virtuous woman. What is a virtuous woman?
First, virtue is defined this way by Vocabulary.com:
“The word virtue comes from the Latin root vir, for man. At first virtue meant manliness or valor, but over time it settled into the sense of moral excellence. Virtue can also mean excellence in general. One of your virtues might be your generous willingness to help out your friends. The phrase by virtue of means “as a result of” or “by authority of.” You will achieve success by virtue of hard work (or by virtue of inside connections).”
Philosophers list 4 moral virtues -prudence (wisdom), temperance (self-control), fortitude (courage), and justice (righteousness). Biblical scholars added faith, hope, and love. These are supposedly the 7 qualities of a virtuous person. So, a woman of virtue would possess faith, hope, love, wisdom, self-control, courage, and righteousness. Those are very powerful qualities. God possesses all of them. He is a righteous, or just, God who cannot sin or do anything that violates these qualities. They are ours to possess and a woman of God will possess them because her life is in Christ and she is not her own.
Proverbs talks about this woman bringing good to her husband. That good is virtue. She is a virtuous woman and she brings this gift to her husband. Actually, she brings it to everyone who is part of her life because she possesses the fruit of goodness, When the Holy Spirit lives inside you, He grows all this fruit – love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. It’s there, we just need to use it in our daily lives. Goodness is virtue, Virtue is a gift of the Holy Spirit,
Eight – Kindness – A Woman of Kindness
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if every person in the world was kind all the time? Kindness is an amazing quality. Kindness and peace go together. Have you ever been in the midst of a chaotic situation and someone came in who created an atmosphere of peace? Usually, they are also kind.
The word talks a lot about kindness and, of course, it is also a fruit of the Holy Spirit.
- “But instead be kind and affectionate toward one another. Has God graciously forgiven you? Then graciously forgive one another in the depths of Christ’s love.” Ephesians 4:32 TPT
- “If you want to be extraordinary—love your enemies! Do good without restraint! Lend with abandon! Don’t expect anything in return! Then you’ll receive the truly great reward—you will be children of the Most High—for God is kind to the ungrateful and those who are wicked.” Luke 6:35 The Voice
- “Since you are all set apart by God, made holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with a holy way of life: compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” Colossians 3:12 The Voice
- “Her teachings are filled with wisdom and kindness as loving instruction pours from her lips.” Proverbs 31:26 TPT
Here is our woman of God who teaches with kindness. We are instructed to be kind, to love our enemies, and to clothe ourselves with kindness. More and more, Christian women need to rise up with voices of kindness and wisdom. Our children are bombarded with hatred and they need to hear the soothing kindness of a Mother’s love and wisdom. We are bombarded with it and need to hear kind words and experience kind treatment.
Unfortunately, I have seen the body of Christ be cruel to one another, judging and condemning while using the Word to justify their actions. I pray that we find our way back to wisdom and kindness. WIsdom will help us correctly interpret the Word and kindness will cause us to apply it with love. Women of God – rise up in kindness!
Nine – Peacemaker – A Woman of Peace
Many years ago, when my children were small, God spoke to me about my home instructing me this way – “Make your home a peaceful refuge.” I knew exactly what God meant. Over the years, I made it my aim to have my home be a place where my family and others could come and experience peace. More than once, I have had people comment that they felt such peace at my home and I took that as a confirmation of obedience to what God had said so long ago.
I mentioned that kindness and peace seem to go together. In a truly peaceful atmosphere, it’s hard to be unkind! Peace is a precious thing and we can have peace even in the midst of difficult or chaotic times. Peace isn’t just a quiet, tranquil place where everything is beautiful, birds are singing in the sunshine, and the world is perfect. Peace is a state-of-mind.
“You will keep the peace, a perfect peace, for all who trust in You, for those who dedicate their hearts and minds to You.” Isaiah 26:3 The Voice
God’s peace is something we experience but may not always understand. This means we can experience peace anytime, anywhere, in any circumstances. It also means that we don’t have to ‘feel it,’ we just need to believe it.
“Don’t be anxious about things; instead, pray. Pray about everything. He longs to hear your requests, so talk to God about your needs and be thankful for what has come. And know that the peace of God (a peace that is beyond any and all of our human understanding) will stand watch over your hearts and minds in Jesus, the Anointed One.” Philippians 4:6-7 The Voice
This peace isn’t something we just dreamed up. It is a gift from Jesus.
“My peace is the legacy I leave to you. I don’t give gifts like those of this world. Do not let your heart be troubled or fearful.” John 14:27 The Voice
We are to pursue a life that creates peace. As peacemakers, we can create peace wherever we are. Peace is powerful. The enemy hates it so he tries to make us only see the chaos and hopelessness around us. But, we are to have God’s eyes and create His peace.
“because the kingdom of God is not about eating and drinking. When God reigns, the order of the day is redeeming justice, true peace, and joy made possible by the Holy Spirit. You see, those who serve the Anointed in this way will be welcomed into the whole acceptance of God and valued by all men. Join us, and pursue a life that creates peace and builds up our brothers and sisters.” Romans 14:17-19 The Voice
We are peacemakers in our home, with our children, family and friends. We are peacemakers at work or church. But, being a peacemaker does not mean you have to talk! First, it must be a reality in your soul and mind. It is something people sense about you. You may not ever actually have to be a mediator and establish rules about peace. Instead, just be yourself, let the Holy Spirit lead you, and let peace flow out from you to others!
The 9 Invincible Characteristics of a Godly Woman
As a woman who loves Jesus, you have all of these attributes. None of us are the Proverbs 31 woman. She appears to be perfect and none of us can be. In Christ, however, we can be the woman He created us to be. There is great freedom in that. You can be the highest version of the woman He sees you as.
God has not withheld anything from us as we live in Christ. I want to encourage you to find freedom as a minister of Christ. You don’t need a title or position. If you love Jesus, if you share His love with others then you are a minister and you are a woman ministering.
Embrace the freedom you have to be a woman and to be a minister. To minister is simply to serve. That’s the definition. You can serve in or outside the church. You can serve at work, at home, at play. You can be a minister of reconciliation anywhere, anytime, with anyone. Right now, you have within you:
- God’s love
- A Caring heart
- Kindness, and
In Christ, you are complete – lacking nothing. Arise woman of God and be the person you know He meant for you to be!
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